The Fog is Rising: Musings on Value and What Really Matters

“Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.” 

Albert Einstein 

My eyes dart across my computer screen toward the bright blue and silver mist gleaming outside our living room’s giant picture window. The fog is rising. Some mornings these condensed cloud formations hover softly above the valley below and seem to disappear; other mornings, they rise quietly—steadily gaining altitude until they blanket our wood cabin in all-consuming grey. I glance out toward the horizon and all I can see now are dark shadows of Spruce, Alder, Willow, and Birch trees; the faint outline of their leaves are vaguely yellow, and as the fog rolls in, even those colors disappear into gray.

Salt-water streams fed by reservoirs of discomfort and change, have become the new ‘normal’ for me in the days since I wrote last. The whimsical-optimist side of me sat down to tea with my analytical-realist self and my excitement over our recent move hastily became obscured by the reality of our living situation—hundreds of miles away from my closest connections in Seattle and southern California, and just as far in this season from my parents and sisters as the previous one. I recognize, intellectually, that moving to a completely different location should be like this—initially difficult, filled with moments of regret but also exhilarating—because I chose this, knowing, to a certain degree it’d be hard. But I didn’t know it’d be this hard. I didn’t realize that I’d miss my friends this deeply. Or, that I’d yearn for the depth of community and teaching that we experienced at our former church in Seattle. I didn’t expect that entering into family living would challenge my nature as an introvert as much as it has. I guess, in short, I didn’t expect things to be this way.

I am thankful that in this time of transition, when my hope for the future is blurred by current struggles, I am finding that a deeper foundation lies beneath the shifting sands of emotion. I’m rooted in who I am in the Lord, and I trust in Him to provide the things that Ken and I need to navigate this new season with grace and gratitude. I’m also learning how to wait, patiently, for the revelation of God’s promises—promises to go before us, to provide for us, to comfort us, to grow us in our faith, and to love us. He is Good. And perhaps, I would never learn how to unabashedly confess my weaknesses and inability to ‘make things happen’ on my own if it were not for seasons of adversity, where many expectations seemingly go unmet.

I suppose, in many ways, this blog has become a ‘safe place’ for me, where I am able to live vulnerably and admit that I’m nowhere near perfect. I’m a work in progress and I’m fighting to live a life that has value. Lately, as I’ve pondered the fresh beginnings my husband and I are embarking upon here in Alaska, I have noticed subtle changes taking place in my life. Especially as I launch my own business in a new state. A particular conversation I recently had with one of my cousins reaffirmed my sense of value in what I do for work. It also reminded me that who I am apart from my work is equally valuable, or perhaps more so, and that naturally, who I am and who I strive to be overflows into all areas of my life. The choices I make in who I market myself as in the business world must correlate with how I’m living as a wife, a family member, a friend, a believer. So, as I focus on what business goals I’d like to meet and what successes I’d like to see in my career, I’m drawn back to these words by Albert Einstein, which I stumbled on a while back: “Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”

Living in the tension of who I am and who I want to be has value. 

Loving others well has value.
Discomfort has value.
Being honest has value.
What God is doing in me in this unique season has value.

“Praise the Lord! I can see something!” Ken exclaims as he peers out the window.

My thoughts are interrupted as my husband shouts happily that he can see a hint of light. He jumps up and down and repeats his words to me. I pause to take in the sudden transformation taking place outside. The sky is brighter; light blue patches start to appear in the distance, and I can tell that the sun is out.

 
It’s refreshing to finally see a glimpse of light breaking through. It was there the whole time, just hiding.

The Siren Song of the Marmoset & Other Adventures as of Late

“MREEAK!” A sound like that of fingernails grinding across a chalkboard deafens my hearing. “Mreeeeak-mreeak!” It comes again, this time with a howl like a child being tortured. My eyes dart across the valley, crazily scanning for the origin of the noise. Ken turns to me and we realize that the shrieking is coming from a marmoset off in the distance. He’s on a large granite boulder, perched roughly 75 feet away from us. And he’s calling to us.

Gracie, my in-laws’ black and white Border Collie, instantly leaps forward in the direction of the marmoset. She’s ready to charge the wild creature. After pouncing through the knee-high brush, she’s at its rock.

But then it’s gone.

A cacophony of screeches ensues, some 40 to 50 feet away, now from different boulders. Gracie runs after the marmoset, indifferent to their changing directions. She loves to hunt. Meanwhile, Ken and I follow, happily chasing after her in pursuit of the marmoset.

This was last Saturday, as the three of us hiked through Archangel Valley near the now nationally recognized town of Wasilla, Alaska. It was my first time venturing down the bumpy, two-mile dirt road leading to this trail, within Hatcher’s Pass. Ken excitedly planned this ‘maiden hike’ for us, in hopes of helping me train for the much more involved 8-hour hike to the crashed B-52 Bomber Plane perched atop a glacier farther along the trail. The hike was wonderful, and a great starting place for me. I enjoyed basking in the verdant mountain landscape while breathing in the crisp 50-degree weather. Likewise, the abandoned mining buildings scattered along our path intrigued me. So much history happened here, I thought to myself, as I walked through the rubble, alongside a rain-swelled creek. I imagined gold miners panning for gold in those waters and digging beneath the surface for the smallest glimmer. And then there were the marmoset, those cat-sized animals scattering across rocks and among shrubs. I felt like we were on an adventure, transported back in time, to a rugged place in history.

In pursuing the marmoset, we quickly lost sight of the main trail and eagerly climbed boulders in the direction Gracie ran. Exhausted from the chase, I sat down on a rock ledge overlooking the valley, where we unpacked our sandwiches and snacks and enjoyed a late lunch. We never made it to the first set of lakes on our journey, our original goal, because we followed the siren call of the marmoset. Although it was a delightful detour, hopefully next time we’ll evade their captivating cries.

Along with our hiking adventures, Ken and I are learning to appreciate the ‘simpler’ aspects of living in a more rural community. Ken’s parents boast a lovely vegetable and fruit garden right outside their front door where we can harvest fresh potatoes, kale, broccoli, and cauliflower for soups, stews, and side dishes. Also, their woodsy and windy street is perfect for wildlife sightings. A year ago, I spotted a moose right in their front yard. More recently, Ken and I came across a beautiful red fox perched along a bank near their property. The majestic creature held a regal stance, as she watched us pass by her early one evening. We endearingly nicknamed her, “The Guardian,” and from time to time, question where The Guardian might be as we weave up or down our road. We live in a marvelous place, ideal for imaginations such as mine.

It’s been a month now since we drove up the Alcan and settled just outside of Anchorage. I’m adjusting to the change in climate, and the heaviness I feel from missing my dear friends in Seattle and scattered throughout Washington, Oregon, and California, is slowly lifting. Honestly, it’s very difficult to now live so far from my closest friends and away from the amenities of city living, and yet, I’m finding glimpses of joy in ways that I’ve never known before. Alaska has a sort of savage splendor to it. A wildly untamed state bold in its assertion of natural beauty. A diamond in the rough, or if I may say so, a nugget of gold pulled from a rocky mountain stream.

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Here are some photos from our recent adventures!
Click on each to enlarge.